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Discussion in 'Social Discussion' started by Eetha, Jan 12, 2016.

  1. themildone

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    Boyfriend is still in jail. He was told yesterday that ICE flagged him.

    When his dad was somewhere between 5-10 years old, he moved to Mexico. He grew up, married a Mexican woman, and had boyfriend. When boyfriend was 2, they moved here and just somehow...never finished his citizenship stuff. And neither did boyfriend once he turned 18. He has a valid SSN (somehow? I don't get it. He went to school, got financial aid for college, has lived in government income-based housing, etc.). Under the immigration laws, one parent has to have resided in the US for at least 5 years before the child was born for the child to claim citizenship through them, which would be fine...but 2 of those years have to be after the parent was 14 years old, but still before the child was born.

    So basically...unless we can find good (free) legal representation...he can be deported. And because of his charges, I think the chances are pretty good.

    I seriously can't. I cannot fucking do this. What the fuck am I going to do if he's deported? WHAT THE FUCK AM I GOING TO DO?
     
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    I'm so sorry, that's awful :(
     
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    WTF? They wouldn't have picked that up earlier? That's totally messed up. I'm sorry :(
     
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    NOT JADED :)

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    fuck
     
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  5. themildone

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    my sentiments exactly. He's been doing hours of research on the online law library there and he said he should qualify under a few different things, and he found some case law that could help him too. I'm still a nervous fucking wreck. I think I got about 6 hours of sleep in the last 2 days.
     
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    That whole story is very shitty and upsetting, and I hate it for you. I'm extremely distressed by the existence of jackbooted thugs who spend all their time and resources on looking for loopholes that allow them to upend people's lives by kicking them out of the country for zero reason.
     
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    NOT JADED :)

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    “I like that you’re broken, broken like me, maybe that makes me a fool.
    I like that you’re lonely, lonely like me, maybe I can be lonely with you.”


    Sums up the beginning of the relationship with my ex. I still miss that connection. Now I’m just a type of lonely that can only be filled with that person.
     
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    :( :hug:
     
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    just got some amazing news (not regarding boyfriend, unfortunately). I decided on a whim to contact my ex (yes, we're still married. yes, I know my life is a fucking episode of jerry springer) to ask if he had reconsidered giving me full custody, given the fact that he hasn't seen/talked to/asked about our son in over 7 months. HE SAID I CAN HAVE FULL CUSTODY! :celebrate2: Now I just have to figure out how to file that with the court and we can finally get fucking divorced!
     
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    NOT JADED :)

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    yaaaay!
     
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    Yesss!!! This makes me so happy for you!!

    My husband filed full custody when he divorced his first wife and because it was uncontested, it was only around $200. This was 16+ years ago though. And a lot of that money was used to try and reach her.
     
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    #1232 ducky, May 16, 2018
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    we filed the first part of it about a year ago but we had to stop there because he wouldn't budge, he wanted 50/50 and every holiday and 2 months in the summer (um yeah right, he lives 4 hours away and kiddo was 1.5 years then). Now it shouldn't be too hard/expensive to do the rest...I hope. I got a consultation on legalzoom for tomorrow so hopefully I'll figure some stuff out.
     
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    That's so awesome!
     
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    Due to this week being an absolute clusterfsck for numerous reasons, the therapy appointment I had set up for Tuesday was rescheduled for Friday. Two more days to wait now. PE for the week: $0.00. I want my regular life back.
     
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    I hate having to reschedule therapy appointments. Always makes things worse because I was prepared to talk about stuff. :hug:
     
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    #1237 ducky, May 18, 2018
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    :hug2:

    I'd say give him (or her I guess?) a chance first, but I know I'd probably be feeling the same way about now and that wouldn't be very helpful.
     
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    melancholy night.

    "with or without you."
     
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